Everyone is shocked by the drama queen and it has directly to the highest level wondered how to prevent this. The conclusion was clear: absolute safety is impossible. Man is and remains free and is therefore unattainable absolute certainty.
It is striking that most talked about measures to reduce damage and ability to minimize. It has mainly dealt with the symptom of the act and much less with the root cause. The research therefore remains superficial and limited to symptom control. How can an act of such a "crazy", it can also be a terrorist, minimize damage. The deeper cause of action, how it is possible that the man was committed, they will not, because that is not a policy question. In the media limits the answer to this question into a conversation with his parents and a brief profile of the perpetrator. It's like he's only main culprit.
My question is whether the perpetrator is the only culprit. His decision does not stand alone but results from different influences of society who have contributed much to his act. This reality is painful but undeniable. The whole society is partly responsible for this act, all of us. The hardening and reification makes people inhumane and that's happened with the offender. He does not come naturally to this act, but it happened is the culmination of a long process of mental draining. That we live in such a society is not self, yet it is our choice, our choice of policies, our choice of the legislation.
The perpetrator is equally a victim of this society. He was always lost his job and the next day he would return the key to his house. As such, he lost everything, even his home. It was as if the ground beneath his feet was washed away and he plunged into the depths. In this deadly emptiness, you are no longer human. You let yourself be guided by your instincts to survive and not more than you realize what you do. It is only the face of a fellow human being who can make human again. But that was not apparent. Why not? That is the crucial question we should ask for such disasters in the future. Where is that man who understands him? Where is the human gesture of hope? Where is the smile that can do wonders?
| Sincerely, Paul de Blot Professor of Business Spirituality Nyenrode Business Universiteit |  |
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Dear Mr. de Blot,
with a sense of familiarity I read your article about the event at Queen's this year.
The question that keeps me busy all times and where I want to strive for, is exactly the one you have raised.
In my view, the (apparently) human greed that we all carry within us, and feel for each lake, one of the causes of that society is becoming increasingly hardens, like a credit crunch may exist, etc.
Every individual who the blog of Mr de Blot reads, in my heart for humanity, the economy and all other matters in this world.
I urge you all to this time of Christmas, look back to the events of last year and perhaps even years, from a perspective of compassion and understanding for those who commit such acts. For though the behavior does not approve, it falls somewhere from continuing. And I see it as a desperate call for attention to his problem of a neighbor.
It's something we all have to deal with daily.
It is time that we change the bets, and see ourselves honestly. What do we ourselves now in such a social development? And from the change in set up and take responsibility for it, every day.
I still believe in a better world if we dare to open ourselves to our fellow man. This is only possible when we stop judging and compassion dare admit.
Sincerely,
Marco van Rossen.
@: Marco van Rossen: thank you for your comments Marco rich. Beautiful Holidays!
A look in the eye can say so many things,
pain, joy, regrets, dreams our anger.
The sparkle of the eye dull our Reveals our true feelings.
Whatever you see no need to no more than what you see in the eye.
Just a look in the eye That shows love and compassion is enough.
It is unfortunately true that sometimes one is alone in the world. It is not about what you say to the other but the empathy you feel for others, regardless of whether one in our eyes, victim or perpetrator.
Sincerely,
Jicel
@ Jicel: You're right. Thanks for your beautiful poem
Dear Paul,
I think it is a fact that man is valued in the Western world based on what he has and not what he is. There is a lot of guts and courage to "being" above the "have" to place. It is an aim of each group and / or individual to a good balance in and have. Many methods and concepts have now also been tried with all kinds of variations. Constantly we must continue to seek improvements and adjustments on an emotional level. There is apparently no perfect world to create. The balance is always in motion. The question is not whether a law of nature that gives meaning to life. You who are looking for in compassion has as much right as those who want stricter penalties. Such a discussion creates a new, albeit temporary balance. Freedom of expression will always win if one wants to listen to each other and thus to a solution (Balance) is looking for.
Ronald Molendijk.
@ Ronald Molendoijk: it is not natural but the inner freedom that no longer free.
Dear Paul,
I find your articles very inspiring and written from a deeply felt and lived wisdom.
In this article, you will not be on the theme "perpetrator and victim" from your deep spiritual visions. Would there even an article like meadows in your newsletter? This is perhaps a very layered and also precarious theme plays while the mi every day (invisible) very big role in our private, work and social / political existence with regard to our thinking, feeling and acting!?
I have myself been pretty here, even layered in depth, yet it is not entirely clear to me.
Many thanks, with a warm greeting, Ines Schouten
@ Ines Schouten: Thanks for your comment. On a spiritual level, the perpetrator is also a victim. They are two faces of the same reality. An inhuman act of inhumanity make yourself
What a wise, moving and inspiring view of this event. Glad to this story with all its spiritual richness and deeper analysis, read here.
It is so true, a small smile in such a supermarket to a lonely neighbor that person one week happy.
Yet I walk at a dilemma. My conviction is that everyone is 100% responsible for what happens to him or her. How do I implement it in whole?
With respect and love,
Hans
Reunemans @ Hans: Thanks for your comment John. A human gesture radiates out and affects others as a magnetic field.
.. it would be comforting if the parents of this man your article and responses could read .. I hope someone points them about it ..
Paul Day,
How beautiful how you show how different we may watch. Everyone is light, but sometimes we forget that .. Then everything seems dark. That is an illusion.
Thank you,
Annemarie
Annemarie @ Slee: Thank you for your support Annemarie
Dear Paul de Blot,
Thank you for this contribution. The human angle touches me. What gets this sound so fast into the background and what that says a lot about myself and the society in which we live.
You have me thinking and put me once again realize that we do together are part of a larger whole, with the possibility it make a difference.
Sincerely, Femmy Wolthuis
@ Femmy Wolthuis: thank you for your positive response Femmy
Dear Paul,
I see and experience the exact hetzelfde.Heb it a few times out loud, people suddenly went away or looked with big eyes, how can you say that? By the way since 1966 this is no longer adhere gebeurd.mensen so en masse in ontiegelijk.
Love and Light for ALL
~ ~ Qahira
@ Qahira of Welzenes: thanks for your reacctie Qahira. Go through with it anyway
Hello Paul,
Thanks for your response to the drama of Queen.
The things you expressed exactly what I felt. It helps me to what lives within me more to want to follow. The perpetrator is no different from the victim. It is still reversible. These are all reflections of ourselves. If we let go of our judgments will be watching us can bring to a maatschapij of mercy, love and commitment.
Good luck with your developments.
Namaste Tineke
Tineke Maas @: Thank you for your support Tineke. Take it by
Beset Paul,
Well that focuses your attention to this!
Sincerely,
Peter Green Horn
@ Peter Green Hoon: Thank you for your short and powerful response Peter
Dear Paul,
Like you, I experience it as a social problem, where attention is rarely given. There is less attention given to emotional experience of people. This can be by dismissal, loss of a loved one, illness or similar result. Society is so focused on continue, pull themselves together and even prefers hardening instead of himself and fellow assist as fellow human beings.
Thank you to the attention.
Sincerely.
@ Marian Muller: Thank you, Marian. Bring them into practice then you improve the world
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Alan Geensen
@ Allan Geensen: You're right Alan
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Dear Paul, I was here there is a desperate act of someone who is indeed in such doldrums that he saw no way out and just on a "spectacular" way - as a statement of his sad world - wanted to die. Little desire or instinct to want to survive I think!
With your idea also about the deeper background, I naturally want to consider completely agree.
Sincerely, Alan Geensen
Dear Paul,
You have nice weather put into words.
Everything outside us is after all a reflection of our inner thinking. This requires self-reflection, even at such a terrible situation.
Thanks for your insight and kind regards,
Theo Max Schulman
@ Theo: Thanks for your supportive response Theo.
Dear Mr. De Blot,
What you describe is indeed hardly discussed, but I feel it so if that describes you. I so wish I could bring into words.
friend sincerely,
Jildert
Dear Mr. De Blot,
Thank you again for this inspiring and confronting reflection.
I heartily endorse the weather. How much suffering, misery and sorrow arises when one lives from the dualistic thought rather than from a sense of unity.
I am convinced that when one feels separated in the first instance of itself and hence the greater whole, there is a substantial feeling of deep loneliness can occur. I can imagine that people from that area to particularly nasty deeds may be because there is no more empathy or compassion, not for yourself, not to another.
It has touched me to see how harshly reacted and there was no more a ruling was made. When one no longer thinks in terms of dualism makes it perhaps omitted to judge each other or what others may or may not deserve. Everyone has dark and light in itself and I believe every person has the right to humanity.
I also know too little of anyway to make a judgment about it. I dare say that everything revolves around a basic sense of security. A bed where you salvaged know and realize that there is always a solution and that help is there if you just ask. For everyone. That was for Karst, and that is there for the survivors.
Dear Mr. de Blot,
Exactly! We are all the society and therefore this act, like all other evils of this society, where we prefer not to look. And yes also agree with many comments here, everyone has their own responsibility. What will I do tomorrow?
Regards Annemarie Ehrenberg
Dear Sir The Blot
It is not just for paving, drainage or mental reification, but also for the complete acidification of the society, the short-term vision of this society and its actors.
Now look at the so-called "financial crisis": it is contrary mi a crisis of confidence, the greed, and especially the complete absence of a "social perspective".
The financial crisis is also resolved (?) By throwing money at it there and not the root causes to look or dig?
Our mind works like a parachute and parachute it only works if the "open" - what our so called political and social leaders decided not to show!
Sincerely
Johan de Mey
Antwerp
Thanks for this reflection. You are so right!
Yes Paul,
There used to shelter at church, synagogue or mosque.
Such care is available at RIAGG or how that might be called today. Apparently they are less easy to approach because of the bureaucracy around it.
As a solution I can see is: good friends, good family relationships. Unfortunately that does not work as good as you get older in years have become: in your childhood that was almost of itself. Unless you are a victim of school dissatisfaction (to put it mildly) of your class peers. There is no life without go wrong, but the solution is get up, go liefts with a command (of yourself, where you're good) to continue gaan.Bezig to remain feelers out to the company (fortunately the world is so big and the Internet to get far!) around you.
what an absolute Quatsch altruistic. Nonsense of the highest and the condoning of a morality that is not appropriate. Mr. Tates loses his job lost by his own behavior. All other things that have happened to him not so much to do with society as well with some people (incorrectly and biased) of the company expected. If you suspect that you have no personal responsibility, you are not a profiteer and mens.Utopia is not an issue, you have to arrange for yourself what needs to be regulated, including the ability to live by the legislature of certain benefits and social services . If you have no peace with you, and you can not improve yourself, you are in fact an outcast.
Mr. Tates would actually be collected as "manic depressive" and are medicated or locked, then the company had him on the "correct" manner.
Hi Paul,
Normally I do not react as quickly to articles. But I want to do to get rid of. I subscribe to a large extent your opinion. There is
many problems in the Netherlands and a cry for help is not sufficiently heard. I think however, that every man his own responsibility. It can not and should never be a license or
an excuse for yourself but certainly innocent people have so much distress.
Regards Guido
Yes, that's where this piece. I have exactly the same feelings and thoughts about it had. We are all responsible. It is so easy to point to 1 man, then we put everything outside of ourselves. The commodification and hardening is a choice all of us. I think it is so important to continue to keep us wondering, but where it now runs about? What we find really important? What makes our life valuable now?
If we want we can create another world.
Glad to be a piece of Paul de Blot to read
Sofie
there is always cause and effect. the sad thing is that we are not raised and still too little with its own accountability. we humans always have a choice how to deal with certain circumstances. I think as we become more would realize that we are the creator of our own lives, we ourselves take responsibility for our lives, than the same time the consciousness that you always have something else to create and you are no longer dependent on your environment or what is done to you. it's not always easy, but what is our own contribution to our "shit".
I believe that everything has a meaning and nothing for nothing, it serves a higher purpose. I can from this point of experiencing compassion for the perpetrator. the spiritual "intention" of this event is doorgegevn a Revelation of Mary, Jesus and Mary Magdalen.
see http://www.openbaringen.com tab under "new revelations". Regards Jescica
Dear Paul,
Finally, someone who expresses my opinion about it. Thank you!
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An unlikely fate. That of a pechvogel.Dat of a uitgedrevene.
He is one of us, no matter how you slice it.
The question is whether we have enough to feel responsible for each other.
The complex is rapidly reduced to something simple that pass us by ....
With your articles again and again touch the essence within us,
that what unites us!
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Dear Paul,
When I read this: "... The reality is painful but undeniable. The whole society is partly responsible for this act, all of us .... " my first thought was that not a single individual could do something with it. The last sentences make me feeling good. Keep it small and give that person your attention, your smile.
Thank you,
John
Sincere consideration for others, treating others as yourself would be treated, just that permanently changes the society that I completely agree with you Paul,
Sincerely,
Rick Lohman
Dear Paul,
It touches me deeply what you write. Thank you.
It opens my eyes a bit further and makes me aware.
I feel gratitude for your presence and your message to the world.
Warm Regards,
Emile
Dear Mr. de Blot,
I'm glad you still remember our humanity in everything.
I am grateful.
Sincerely,
Reinier Bil