For years I taught various subjects, including marketing. In addition, I also dealt with the stakeholders, but I never found the family party. I have always treated the family as the main stakeholder. In my experience, many companies collapsed due to problems in the family.
The family is also the manager of the most basic school, because even though you have no family, at least you're born and raised in a family. I noticed last week that the reason the family suddenly at the center of attention has come to be because of two key executives leaving politics because of their family. They apparently the family is more important than their careers. It is seemingly realized that the family had an important stakeholder is reckoned to be.
It is therefore worthwhile to reflect on the role of the family. The family is the smallest organization we know. There are also essential elements of an organization to find. It's about profit, profit, no income because there is food on the table. There must be spirit, passion, friendship and love, otherwise the family so far apart. There is also cooperation is needed, although such cooperation is not controlled protocol.
The Japanese management gurus Nonnaka and Takeuchi show that an organization can only survive if they create knowledge. This happens in two ways, by explicit knowledge and tacit knowledge. The explicit knowledge, anyone can learn and can be acquired by every company. This is not to compete. But tacit knowledge is growing from within like a self-organizing mechanism is not taking or transfer. The family is a typical example. It is built by a tacit knowledge grows and as it were by itself.
In a company you can easily change a key position and a director of places. In a family you can not just easily replace a father or a mother. If you ask a family to their organizational and leadership profile you get very different answers. The ever changing and constantly adapts as the situation changes. Sometimes the boss dad, mom sometimes, sometimes grandma when she's there, sometimes the sick child.
The family is based on opposites, unlike sex, generation, character, age, yet also a common inspiration. This causes a family despite all these differences, a unity. That is the power of the spirituality of a family. It is not without difficulty and often failed, but in general it will succeed. According to the Chinese in the spirit of Confucius someone his family can not lead nor lead organization. The family is the school principal and the principal stakeholder.
| Kind regards, Paul de Blot Professor of Business Spirituality Nyenrode Business Universiteit |  |
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Dear Paul,
Thank you again for your vision and opinion. Thanks also to others who responded. The importance of a warm nest and a harmonious family, I stress very much. And even if it is not quite ideal remains thereby arriving at finding the balance and to make choices for the good of the greater importance.
Heart Regards,
Vonny Nuijten
Day Mr. Blot,
read with interest the report on the family.
I recognize the principle of a small book titled Tao The King.
Who by virtue of working alone,
its virtue will be true.
Anyone who works for his family virtue,
its virtue will be abundant.
Anyone who works in virtue of his village,
its virtue will be great.
Who by virtue of its country work,
its virtue will be powerful.
Who by virtue of the world works,
its virtue will be comprehensive.
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Quite a shame that more people choose later in life for a family to go. If the ideas in your piece as my short review and a core of truth, what I think, we learn at a later age than is possible, only the essential skills that are valuable in society. Perhaps a focus for our 'designer' Society (thoughts).
Kind regards,
Reindert of Gere Steijn
Dear Mr. de Blot,
Thanks for the news "the school of the family" of April 6. It is a beautiful addition to your lecture to a group of entrepreneurs on March 23 jl Driebergen, where I first have met, and where you will find also talked about the family. Then I thought that you alluded to the traditional composition "Dad, Mom and the kids" From your article I now understand that with "family" refers to the family system in which we grew up, regardless of its composition.
Driebergen made a division into three levels (individual, family, organization) You illustrated that our first language in the family "silence" is. Tacit knowledge is generated. But silence is not the same as "not talk". The pre-baby boom generation is often not taught to (affective) experience and express it in the family was "tacit knowledge". Many families and organizations still do not know, have not learned how they can contribute so that information is released.
Silence so that the system (family or organization) can further unfold, is a stage in a self-organizing process. You mentioned in your reading except the language of the "silence" the language of the "fantasy", "story language" and the language of "love". Are these phases of a process? If silence from the system the opportunity to be bilingual, there is probably more likely that it will self-organize. Sometimes with surprisingly different behavior characteristics. Indeed, as you wrote: "Sometimes the boss dad, mom sometimes, sometimes grandma when she's there, sometimes the sick child" A relevant proverb: parents teach their children how to talk, older children teach their parents how to be silent. "
The field of "organizational and relationship systems coaching" (ORSC), the relationship (s) between people. The coach guides not the individual partners, but the coaching relationship between the partners. The relationship is like the coach of the customer. It sounds simple but it is not. We are so used to thinking of positions and interests. Your vision and approach of ORSC, where western and eastern methods reinforce each other, offer good opportunities. It brings unspoken or unconscious information top. Every behavior, every feeling and every (conscious and unconscious) expression in a relationship carries a message in itself. The mutual trust grows and learns to appreciate each other's contribution to the relationship. What relationships does succeed, according to John Gottman surprisingly simple. He says that relationships succeed if their lives have found a dynamic that makes the negative thoughts and feelings they have about each other (and many relationships), the positive untouched. They have an emotionally intelligent relationship. The family relationships are, I think the best way to learn this. Indeed: the faculty of the family.
I would love it if we could support families and organizations towards better relations. We are still primarily relational beings and we learn from, to, through and through our relationships. But how do we reach clients and sponsors for this kind of thinking about organization and family? It is mi worth investing in relationships rather than strengthen the positions of individuals. It is a respectful contribution to less frustration in the workplace and more understanding.
Thanks for your article that inspired me to reflect. Kind regards,
Sonja Vlaar (coach and facilitator).
How recognizable is your column for us.
The family as an organization. Nothing is strange in this. We have raised our daughter with the thought, first, for our daughter and also a very good friend of ours and may be.
Over the years we had her backpack filled with knowledge, values and sports casts this happy now bearing fruit.
She is now an independent girl who, after graduating from Erasmus has enough tools to her own family (organization) to build.
Of course we hope that we will again be able to share with our backpacks, and they, in our old age, may fill again.
With cordial greetings,
Ed Baker
Nice to read so that others experienced,
Each family is not only a very particular school or business in the small but also a society in itself. A society in crisis and prosperity may face and if she is strong enough in the experience and the experience of interconnectedness,
everything seems to be.
Jacqueline
Nice column, which reminds me of the Hexagram 37 I'Ching the book of change. Hexagram 37 is about the "clan", the tribe, the family. "While maintaining a harmonious family, group or association, any place kennen.Van the beginning, children or novices to the fixed order are used. It is really important to be consistent action. For a proper education to words and actions are consistent, otherwise the effect. With a deliberate and consistent way to make others may have to focus and adapt. "
In the current shift a challenge for organizations and people to discover a new balance.
Dear Paul,
Thank you! So true and inspiring. I am so thankful that our wonderful family was the center of me and my husband has been and always will be. Learned so much! of our four children. For six weeks we have grandparents and our grandchildren now gives so much inspiration!
Thank you! inspirational for your column!
Heart Greetings, Els
Yes, the family recognize and acknowledge me as the source.
She knows, however, many forms that I by living together in families with very diverse cultural backgrounds have been able to breathe. Thus in many Indian families, for example so that all women are mothers together for the kids
in the family. For my children, this was getting used to but enriching.
The social molecule increases.
In the event of a divorce and new partner, this raises a new light on the matter. Of course there is pain and sorrow for all concerned, is a mother or father in exchange, but also innovation and enrichment, in my case also contact the new mutual partners. This includes translating
to organizations?
Paul Day,
Thank you for your wisdom.
Inspiration and binding to growth and gives people the opportunity of growth to grow.
The parallels you draw between family and organization are very illuminating.
Regards,
Paul Elsen JM
Dear Paul, thanks again for this "ancient wisdom" is that simple! You have the weather is so simple and clearly worded. Actually the world is not as complex as you to the authentic core terguggaat. But that's just so difficult an era where so many turn to the form, and the outer fringes. And so it is difficult to "slow questions" to be found only in peace and silence and reflection to address these issues. And these conditions are so at odds with our "noise" - society. I therefore welcome the creation of awareness and the need for silence, where you only listen to yourself and where you can find many answers.
Thanks and regards, Jeanny
Dear Paul,
Thanks for this great column.
I happen to have this morning with my parents talked about the role of the family and how valuable it is a warm and loving family to come. My father (83 years) admitted in this conversation also moerder him that his choices have always supported her and that he is still grateful for this. Your column had me no better time to come, I thank you.
Sincerely,
Marlies Dams.
Dear Mr. De Blot,
A nice article about the value of the family. Skinner had here a good book on the subject with John Cleese. Alvin Toffler, the family also cited as one of the main sources of the 21st century labor market. Knowledge and values are all in the family and this is taught in any one economic picture forward. So if you want dedicated employees, business partners and leaders, then you appreciate his family. It's not always about profit maximization but also togetherness, unconditional, self acceptance and can and should be. Like a family. Ultimately we are all interdependent and that is not in monetary terms.
Sincerely,
Michael Jansen
Paul magnificent column,
The inspiration that comes from your words, makes the subject so approachable leadership everyday with this concrete example of their own family. If the family the child has to his or her right to come in terms of talent and character building, in a loving social setting can a parent at maturity of the child see how you did it. Then you have, if it is good, no dry bread given, but a spiritual food essences, integrity, commitment and responsibility, knows the adolescent what it does best, has a strong base of confidence and can be beautiful person complex society and may find their way there.
Kind regards,
Ingrid GJ Burgman
Dear Mr. de Blot,
your column offered a surprising perspective that you passed in the regular management literature not often encounter. The family is an important school for the children to grow in, but as a father of two daughters, I can say I learn a lot from my children.
The family can also be a hard 'school', especially for children who are not so fortunate with their parents. There too you can still come out okay, but just as often done in family learning experiences that are not exactly contribute to your happiness and / or your career at school or in your work.
Now I myself work at the Ministry of Education and breaks it increasingly realized that a close family, in which there is any ambition to develop your talent, is very important for your learning and school performance. In am therefore very postief the efforts of the Ministry of Youth & Family for this topic firmly on the policy of the government to get. It is also growing awareness that the family needs a broader social inclusion, for example, in a nice neighborhood with some social cohesion, say 'a village to raise a child'. Coming from Rotterdam (south side), I realize more and more how important this kind of cohesion.
In this regard I can perhaps draw your attention to the advice of the Council for the Social Ontwikkleing (RMO) on 'investing around children. That opinion is explicitly stated that individualism may at its peak, and that it is good to find more common ground in society, a situation in which families can thrive better.
In short, I'm glad this topic, and I hope this response really value.
Sincerely,
Ype Akkerman
Ype Akkerman
Rotterdam